Having just chopped off all of my hair and feel all new again, I got to thinking about what it felt like " going natural ". I decided to stop relaxing my hair; this was back in 1998, and at the risk of sounding like an old timer, I gotta say,"It's quite easy 'going natural' today; back then, it was quite a task. There was no Curly Nikki or even Wonder Curl back then."
Nope, there was one or two sites about natural hair, and they werenât that useful to me. And donât even get me started on YouTube. Itâs all good, because going through the âstruggleâ has enabled me to give great anecdotal stories to you newbies as well as appreciate my hair that much more. With that, I am here to impart my wisdom if you intend going natural so that you donât have to struggle as much as I did. Youâre welcome.
1. Have patience as you're going natural.
This is easier said then done. At first, youâre in love with the curls that are growing out of your head. You stare at them and think âWow, look at all these curls.â But, as your hair grows you start to realize âwhoa, look at all these friggin curls, what on earth will I do?â This has happened to the best of us. Iâve texturized in the hope of taming the curl, but this didnât do anything for the thickness of my hair and really, it caused damage. I discovered the flat iron, this was great until my hair completely stopped curling and my hair got thin. Finally, I just stopped, took a breath and started over for the third time with patience.
2. The back of your hair is probably the softest.
Remember how you used to relax your hair and refer to the back as your âkitchensâ? (I never got that joke btw.) Well, now that youâre natural, most likely what you thought were âbeedie beesâ are really soft, fine hair that you canât keep your fingers out of. You then start to fantasize how much easier your life would be if only all of your hair could be more like the back. Which leads me toâŚ
3. Thereâs like 3-5 different textures of hair on your head.
In addition to the soft back of your head that probably has the loosest curl pattern, the center of your head might be the coarsest, the front curls just right, but one side is thicker than the other. Well, at least thatâs what itâs like on my head. Itâs as if a bunch of different people decided to get together and have a party on my head. This only becomes more noticable as your hair grows too. And thatâs the best segueway toâŚ
4. It only feels like your hair isnât growing because of shrinkage.
Shrinkage to us naturals is like the biggest joke of them all. You know your hair is growing because itâs the healthiest it has ever been. But, you have to pull it down to show everyone how far youâve come along, and then everyone marvels at both how long your hair has gotten and how short it is at the same time. Itâs not a game.
5. Hair with product is totally different from hair without product.
You know that friend who can literally wash and go and her curls are fantastic, Iâm not her. My hair, when dried to its own devices is a giant bush where things gets lost like a giant purse. My hair with product looks like a completely new texture. People ask, âWhat did you do?â or âHow did you get your hair like that?â That, my friend, is the power of product, and sectioning, and waiting to dry and not touching my hair for a week.
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